Commercial child care is a rough business, and it's not surprising that you were distressed at the conditions you found. Most providers try to do a good job, but it's difficult at best. It's sad enough that so many children spend 8 to 12 hours a day without a parent's care. You should feel good that you were aware that something was wrong with what was going on.
I don't know a lot about providing child care, but if you don't want to work for a company you would have to start a business of your own. That would mean having the space, getting the required certification and licenses from the county, insurance, and all the other things required to run a business. The only other child care organization that I am aware of is Fairfax County's SACC (School Age Child Care) program which is run in the county's schools and provides care for young students after school hours. You could contact the county for information. Try the Fairfax County computer bulletin board (703-802-3270) to see if there's any information there. It's a pretty good service and you may well find something. Since you appear to have access to AOL (American On-line), find a forum devoted to family issues and check for information there. Leave a message and see what responses you get.
I wish I could be of more help. Whatever you end up doing, don't compromise your standards. Our children need the best care we can provide and if you're able to help even one child to have a better day, then you've accomplished something. Good luck and let me know what happens!
Dr. Morris Main Page